As you may have heard from my last post, I recently graduated! It is an exciting transition for me with much anticipation towards what is in store for this next season of life. However, what many of us forget as we all make great transitions in life, is that we still experience endings. In order to begin, often something else must end.
These endings can mean we experience some sort of loss and can bring unexpected grief and emotions for which we may not be prepared. Towards the end of my last semester, I started to experience just that. Had I not experienced it before, and had a wise counselor (yes, counselors go to counseling too) speak into my life about grief, I may not have been prepared for the conflicted emotions and thoughts that emerged.
Someone does not have to die for us to experience losses in our life. Loss also does not always mean something negative happened.
Just as we all lose our baby teeth, losses in life allow for new opportunities and growth.
Over the past weeks and months, I have been in a sort of grieving process of this season of life coming to an end. It was a long and cumbersome season where I worked long days and studied and went to school in the evenings. I had a big breakup during this season and also fell in love and got married in this season. God was so faithful throughout the process, even though it was not always enjoyable. Somehow, even though I looked forward to and longed for this day to come, there is a part of me that grieved. I made friends during this season, and I also did not spend as much time with friends as I would have liked.
Grief can be a motivator. When we grieve, we recognize our feelings and the good and the bad, but we don’t have to stay there.
There comes a point in time where we have to recognize and accept that things have changed, or are changing.
“We add to our suffering when life changes and we behave as if it hasn’t.” Mark Nepo
We can do something in the future, as a result of what grief has taught or is teaching us. My grieving has shown me that my word for the year – EMBRACE- was the perfect word. I will always be in some kind of season working towards some kind of goal. That does not need to stop me from embracing moments with the people I love and creating memories. I can pay attention- LISTEN- to what is happening around me and in me, and move forward in peace.
Are you in a transition season of life?
Is there something that you have not yet grieved?
Is there something changing in your life that you’re trying to act like it is not happening?